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"I dream of a world where I can lay my vulnerabilities out there, open for everyone, until they are my strengths. I am longing for this."
Harper Steele
If you are feeling suicidal you are NEVER alone... JUST dial 988
If you are feeling suicidal you are NEVER alone... JUST dial 988
Or Click Here for a link to their website and talk/text links or click the logo at left.
Basic Info on Identity Issues
Basic Info on Identity Issues
The current administration is making choices that make all LGBTQ+ people LESS safe. This is my advice for his second term.
From a Mother Who Knows the Risk: My strongest recommendation for parents of LGBTQ children
From a Mother Who Knows the Risk: My strongest recommendation for parents of LGBTQ children
Tips for Parents of LGBTQ+ Children in Conservative Areas & Those Who CARE About Protecting Them
Tips for Parents of LGBTQ+ Children in Conservative Areas & Those Who CARE About Protecting Them
This Site is NOT a Replacement for Therapy, Medication or Medical Treatment
This Site is NOT a Replacement for Therapy, Medication or Medical Treatment
Caution with Mindfulness and Quiet Mind and Trauma
Caution with Mindfulness and Quiet Mind and Trauma
How NeuroMeditation Helped Me with Identity Issues
How NeuroMeditation Helped Me with Identity Issues
Working with a Therapist is CRUCIAL with Identity Issues
Working with a Therapist is CRUCIAL with Identity Issues
To find and maintain stability when experiencing Identity Issues it is imperative that you work with a Therapist's guidance, support and monitoring. Click HERE to find one in your area.
Created and Verified by Psychology Today.
This website has SO many AMAZING resources, which are broken down in clear and usable ways, to help you that is safe and inclusive.
This link takes you to the crisis section of a page, which has very important info, but also has more info if you scroll up. There you will find links to finding whatever resource you need.
Know your ACES Score
Know your ACES Score
Click HERE for a link to the original test and the one considered most used by therapists to determine childhood trauma. This is an important thing for you to know about yourself.
Honoring Loss of Part of Self
Honoring Loss of Part of Self
Using Movement Meditations for Identity Issues
Using Movement Meditations for Identity Issues
My Favorite Meditations for Identity Issues:
Why The Cave of Safety is Vital for Identity Issues
Why The Cave of Safety is Vital for Identity Issues
The system responds and can return to calm when you send it messages of safety. This meditation is helpful for that, or whenever you need a barrier to the world, a deep sense of safety, unconditional love and support, or when you are doing difficult work. Practicing often can help restore a sense of safety.
Music: Golden Blossom - Tranquil Flute by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
Fostering Self Love
Fostering Self Love
This meditation guides you through increasing love and compassion for yourself. Observe yourself and how the experiences of life have impacted you. Through the lens of love, connect with both giving and receiving whatever is needed, fostering and growing your compassion and understanding for yourself.
Music: Healing Mother by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
This meditation guides you through shifting your attention inward to: build connection with self and body; increase awareness of, and ability to listen to, information coming from your body which can help you begin to tune into what state your nervous system is in and to assess effectiveness of interventions
Music: Krishna’s Healing Power by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
Anchoring Bi-Lateral Meditation
This Meditation anchors you into your stable, rooted self using the vagus nerve; balances the mind through bi-laterall focus and bi-lateral touch
Music: Vagus Nerve Stimulation by Narayanjot Records on YouTube
This meditation is the basis and foundation of Open Heart meditations. It increases love and compassion for self and others.
Music: Peaceful Garden by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
Open Heart: Being the Tree & the Forest
Weave Yourself INTO Life
This meditation uses imagery of being both the single rooted tree AND the entire forest to Open the Heart and increase connection
Music: Morning Flute Music - New Day by Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
Connecting with Awe and Wonder
Awe is beneficial for everyone, especially when dealing with anything difficult. Do this often - even for a couple minutes when you are stressed/overwhelmed/hurting. This meditation guides you through remembering, with all of your senses, an experience of being in a place where you FELT AWE
Music: Village Love Story by Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
Use this meditation to balance the mind, increase focus and attention, and most importantly to interrupt the signaling from the amygdala so that you can bring your system into CALM. This is my version of one from the NMI page on insight timer and also on this page.
Music: Powerful Meditation Music for Concentration and Focus by Meditation and Healing on YouTube
This meditation anchors you in your strong, immoveable center and allows you to rest in strength as you observe all thought, feeling and sensation that arises
Music: Bamboo Garden by Buddha’s Flute
This focus meditation uses imagery of the tree of life; drawing energy up from your roots and down from your limbs and leaves, allowing them to mingle, grow and connect you with the vitality of life.
Music: Golden Blossom by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
The Net of Indra as a Symbol of Connection
The Net of Indra as a Symbol of Connection
Weave Yourself INTO Life
This Open Heart meditation increases the felt sense of being woven into the very fabric of life
Music: Village Love Story by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
This meditation aids you in accepting and facing the unknown through connecting with your core immovable self and anchoring into your strength.
Music: Calm Mountains by Fantasia Echoes
Quiet Mind: Being the Tree & the Forest
This meditation connects you with being like a tree and then slowly to the feeling of being the entire, vast and expansive forest
Music: Relaxing Flute Falling Leaves by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
This meditation helps you to gently stretch into acceptance of things that may be difficult
Music: Dive into Tranquility - Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
Ouroboros for Letting Go & Shedding the Past
** Caution: This Meditation is not suitable for people living with, or experiencing, suicidal ideation **
Using imagery of Ouroboros, this meditation supports you through times of great change, growth and/or transformation. It assists you through your process of, and your acceptance of, letting go and shedding the past - moving you forward into this new life phase.
Music: Peaceful Garden by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
This meditation can be helpful when you feel pulled in opposite directions or the splitting experience arising from what seems to be conflicting thoughts, feelings, or sensations. By helping you stretch and expand the meditation this supports you so that you don’t have to pick either/or, and rather can hold BOTH things.
Music: Krishna’s Harmonious Flute by Buddha’s Lounge
This meditation uses space imagery to quiet the mind for sleep. Using both the darkness between all things in space and its vast neverending expansiveness.
Music: 8 Hour Hans Zimmer Time Cover by Cozy Sleep Sounds on YouTube
When Identity Changes Lead to Depression
This meditation assists you in moving through the waters of Depression which ebb and flow.
Music: Bamboo Garden by Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
Meditation for When Grief Shatters Your Sense of Self or Identity
This meditation is pretty self explanatory. It can offer some sense of soothing to the pain.
Music: Listen to the Flute’s Lament by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
This meditation supports you in expanding yourself as you hold both your joys and your sorrows.
Music: Buddha’s Flute - Healing Mother by Buddha’s Lounge
When Guilt or Regret are Connected to Your Identity Changes
This meditation gently guides you through sitting with your deep regrets and assists you in allowing and receiving the balm of self forgiveness
Music: Dive into Tranquility by Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
My Favorite Meditations from the NeuroMeditation Institute for Identity Issues:
If your Identity Issue is a result of your life changing radically as a result of Loss, go to the GRIEF and LOSS page for more helpful info specific to the impacts of Grief/Loss.
The Vagus Nerve & Polyvagal Theory
What are the Vagus Nerve and Polyvagal Theory & Why do they Matter to YOU?
Go to the Vagus Nerve and Polyvagal Theory Page for Images, Links and More Information
Working with SAFETY
Working with SAFETY
Working to Know Thyself
Working to Know Thyself
Working with Connection
Working with Connection
Working with NATURE
Working with NATURE
Go to the Safety, Know Thyself, Connection and NATURE pages for more info and meditations
Get Into NATURE
Various Ways to Access Nature: Especially When You Can't Get There
Various Ways to Access Nature: Especially When You Can't Get There
Go to the NATURE page for more information and meditations for connecting with NATURE
Temperament, Personality and Perception
What Is Your Temperament?
What Is Your Temperament?
Knowing what temperament you are at a base level can help you as you come to KNOW YOURSELF more fully.
We come into the world having a base temperament. This is our Nature. Who we are is comprised of this and our NURTURING or how we were nurtured. Understanding your nature can offer you amazing insight into yourself. Exploring the impacts of how you were nurtured or where you weren't allows you to see the story that is YOU. Our Nature can't be radically changed. However when we come to understand ourselves better we can gain the awareness to make choices which are in alignment with our nature so that our lives can feel more peaceful and fulfilling. It is part of learning to truly love, accept and respect yourself and the WONDER which you ARE! No one is the same as us... we are connected and can have shared experiences, but the internal world that is us is something which is as unique as our fingerprint.
Why Understanding Your Personality is Helpful with Identity Issues
Why Understanding Your Personality is Helpful with Identity Issues
Take time to answer the questions slowly and honestly for accuracy. They offer a breakdown of a buttload of very interesting and helpful information that can help you gain insight into yourself.
What Does Perception Have to Do With It All?
What Does Perception Have to Do With It All?
Redefining and ReCLAIMING Your Perception
Redefining and ReCLAIMING Your Perception
Re-Defining Your Identity is Within Your Power and LIBERATING!
Re-Defining Your Identity is Within Your Power and LIBERATING!
Remember to go to the BEGIN HERE page and the Other Helpful Resources page for more information and tools which can be helpful for people living with Identity Issues. Go to the Mindfulness and the Quiet Mind page for more meditations to calm the racing mind that can come with Identity Issues.
Call 988 if you are EVER feeling suicidal
Call 988 if you are EVER feeling suicidal
A Couple of Helpful Books for Identity Struggles Associated with Gender
Changing Ones: Third and Fourth Genders in Native North America
Changing Ones: Third and Fourth Genders in Native North America
by Will Roscoe
ISBN: 0312224796
Ancient Bodies, Ancient Lives: Sex, Gender and Archaeology
Ancient Bodies, Ancient Lives: Sex, Gender and Archaeology
by Rosemary Joyce
ISBN: 9780500051535
Videos on the Science and NeuroBiology of Gender
The Facts About Gender
Transgender Neurobiology
Brain Gender
Neurobiology of Trans-Sexuality
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