Paulo Freire
"I dream of a world where I can lay my vulnerabilities out there, open for everyone, until they are my strengths. I am longing for this."
Harper Steele
There are many things that can hinder or help you through this work. These are a few I've found to be valuable and have helped clients and students. They can serve as a rudder to guide you throughout your process.
Areas of Self-Exploration
The video below explains how knowledge of the brain, our nervous system and polyvagal systems help you to listen to yourself better and Take the Reins of your Mind.
UNDERSTANDING YOUR BRAIN & Why it Matters!
Learning about the brain and how it functions helps us to better understand our feelings, reactions, responses - mental, physical and emotional - to life's difficult and all too often traumatic experiences.
Through understanding what is happening in the brain and the nervous system when you are activated, you can learn how to manage and reduce your reactions. This leads to increased experiences of balance and stability.
MOST Importantly: Understanding how your brain works is empowering and is key to taking the reins of your mind and your experience.
Want to Learn More?
This is their page on Insight Timer. I recommend all of the NMI NeuroMeditations. You won't find links for all of them on this website as I only listed my favorites. Explore the others through this link.
This is not a complete or in depth assessment, however it is a helpful tool for beginning to work with NeuroMeditation. Also, I strongly recommend retaking the survey when you notice you are in a different state. The results will likely be different when you are in an active depressive state or if you are in a highly anxious state. Then you can begin to learn which style you need when you are in different states.
Nothing will change radically by trying meditation once or twice; especially if you are new to it. However, if you build slowly and regularly practice, you will notice subtle changes that grow and compound over time.
The Free Mini-Courses are a great place to get a feel for the style(s) your survey recommended. Take one of the longer courses if you are able!
When we use imagery or symbols in meditation or any form of processing/reflection, if we don't connect with the imagery. - I mean REALLY connect - the desired outcome is generally lacking. For the imagery around the Cave of Safety Meditation (below) for example, if you feel claustrophobic you won't like to use imagery of going deep into the earth, this will hinder any of the benefit of increasing the feeling of safety because your amygdala will be activated and in distress. BE SURE to always give yourself permission to alter any imagery or symbols in any meditation you are working with.
The key is you MUST feel it resonate in your heart, gut, your mind, your being. If you don't feel it or connect with it then choose a different image or symbol to work with.
What is Toxic Positivity? How does it impact people? How to set boundaries with people who are pushing toxic positivity on you... knowing they are doing it out of love and concern.
Grifters abound in the "healing" profession and community. Watch this video for some information on how to avoid those who are preying on your vulnerability, pain, suffering, difficulty and/or struggle. Be CAUTIOUS with your heart, mind and psyche - treat it with the care it deserves with choosing who you work with.
Toxic positivity is corrupting America
Knowing what temperament you are at a base level can help you as you come to KNOW YOURSELF more fully.
We come into the world having a base temperament. This is our Nature. Who we are is comprised of this and our NURTURING or how we were nurtured. Understanding your nature can offer you amazing insight into yourself. Exploring the impacts of how you were nurtured or where you weren't allows you to see the story that is YOU. Our Nature can't be radically changed. However when we come to understand ourselves better we can gain the awareness to make choices which are in alignment with our nature so that our lives can feel more peaceful and fulfilling. It is part of learning to truly love, accept and respect yourself and the WONDER which you ARE! No one is the same as us... we are connected and can have shared experiences, but the internal world that is us is something which is as unique as our fingerprint.
Click Above for the link to the FREE survey!
Take time to answer the questions slowly and honestly for accuracy. They offer a breakdown of a buttload of very interesting and helpful information that can help you gain insight into yourself.
Only believing you DON'T need a therapist is CRAZY!
Having the support and guidance of a licensed and qualified therapist is crucial to navigating difficult experiences and struggles; finding the right one is essential. Make sure you choose one that fits you; one who meets you where you are at, one who pushes you enough, but not too much, and one whose practices align with your needs.
Picking a qualified therapist we are compatible with can be difficult. Especially when there are many grifters who profess ability but who have no real training. Be careful in who you choose to work with. Your mind, your mental health, your well-being are areas you must be very careful with. If you are spiritual, or religious, you will want to choose a therapist that lists including this in their practice. If you are NOT, you will also want to watch for that listed as an element of practice. When cross matched, this can result in a lot of frustration, feeling judged and discouragement.
ALWAYS choose someone who is licensed and qualified.
I recommend choosing someone with training in the following areas of therapy (of course CBT because this is standard practice):
EMDR
Internal Family Systems
DBT
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Choose someone you will feel safe with and who aligns with your values.
Priests, unless trained as licensed therapists, are not the same. They may offer consolation and comfort, but they are not trained appropriately for mental health concerns.
This site allows you to filter by MANY categories to help you connect with the right provider.
If you ARE a practicing therapist:
Information on incorporating brain-based tools into your practice can be found through the NeuroMeditation Institute. They offer courses which can qualify for Continuing Education Credits. Even if you already meditate, the information and approach are different and personalized. The course content is rooted in Neuroscience and utilizing Neuro-tools to shift the brain and nervous system states. These tools are incredibly helpful, and empowering, for people living with a variety of mental health struggles, and for general life difficulties.
You can also find Dr. Tarrant's book on the website, which is a very valuable tool to help you begin working with NeuroMeditation.
Psychedelic Therapy for Medication Resistant People
Some helpful videos to help you understand Psychedelic Therapies