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"I dream of a world where I can lay my vulnerabilities out there, open for everyone, until they are my strengths. I am longing for this."
Harper Steele
If you are feeling suicidal you are NEVER alone... JUST dial 988
If you are feeling suicidal you are NEVER alone... JUST dial 988
Or Click Here for a link to their website and talk/text links or click the logo at left.
Basic Info On Surviving Loss from Suicide
Basic Info On Surviving Loss from Suicide
This Site is NOT a Replacement for Therapy, Medication or Medical Treatment
This Site is NOT a Replacement for Therapy, Medication or Medical Treatment
Caution about Mindfulness and Quiet Mind Meditations and Trauma
Caution about Mindfulness and Quiet Mind Meditations and Trauma
How Grief/Loss from Suicide is RADICALLY different from other Grief/Loss
How Grief/Loss from Suicide is RADICALLY different from other Grief/Loss
Things I'm Glad I Heard and Things You Can Do For People Who Lose a Loved One to Suicide
Things I am Glad I heard Right Away
Things I am Glad I heard Right Away
This does not describe details of finding my daughter, rather what I experienced and was glad I heard.
Things You Can Do For Someone Who Lost a Loved One to Suicide
Things You Can Do For Someone Who Lost a Loved One to Suicide
How NeuroMeditation Helped Me After Losing My 13 yr old Daughter to Suicide
How NeuroMeditation Helped Me After Losing My 13 yr old Daughter to Suicide
Important Things To Consider When Surviving Loss From Suicide
Important Things To Consider When Surviving Loss From Suicide
Using Memory When Surviving Loss from Suicide
Using Memory When Surviving Loss from Suicide
Working with a Therapist is Vital to Surviving Loss from Suicide
Working with a Therapist is Vital to Surviving Loss from Suicide
How My Therapists Have Helped Me With This Journey
How My Therapists Have Helped Me With This Journey
The is the most trustworthly source for finding a licensed therapist. They have excellent filters like: insurance, scope of practice, various treatment models and many more.
This website has SO many AMAZING resources, which are broken down in clear and usable ways, to help you that is safe and inclusive.
This link takes you to the crisis section of a page, which has very important info, but also has more info if you scroll up. There you will find links to finding whatever resource you need.
When Losing Someone to Suicide Leads to Your Own Experience of Suicidal Ideation
When Losing Someone to Suicide Leads to Your Own Experience of Suicidal Ideation
Go to the Suicidal Ideation page for more tools, mediations, videos and resources
The Vagus Nerve & Polyvagal Theory
What are the Vagus Nerve and Polyvagal Theory & Why do they Matter to YOU?
Go to the Vagus Nerve and Polyvagal Theory Page for Images, Links and More Information
Working with SAFETY
Working to Know Thyself
Working with Connection
Working with Nature
Go to the pages below to get more info and meditations for these:
SAFETY, Know Thyself, Connection and NATURE
Go to the BEGIN HERE page and the Other Helpful Resources page for other information, tools, resources and book recommendations that can be helpful for the journey of surviving loss from suicide
After Loss from Suicide: Honoring the impact on you
After Loss from Suicide: Honoring the impact on you
Enduring the Labyrinth of the Dark Night: Feeling your way through the Darkness
Enduring the Labyrinth of the Dark Night: Feeling your way through the Darkness
Meditations for Surviving Loss from Suicide:
This meditation is pretty self explanatory. It can offer some sense of soothing to the pain.
Music: Listen to the Flute’s Lament by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
The Cave of Safety: Why It is Critical To Your Survival After Loss from Suicide
The Cave of Safety: Why It is Critical To Your Survival After Loss from Suicide
The system responds and can return to calm when you send it messages of safety. This meditation is helpful for that, or whenever you need a barrier to the world, a deep sense of safety, unconditional love and support, or when you are doing difficult work. Practicing often can help restore a sense of safety.
Music: Golden Blossom - Tranquil Flute by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
Open Heart Meditation for When Grief Rocks Your World
This meditation is pretty self explanatory. It can offer some sense of soothing to the pain.
Music: Listen to the Flute’s Lament by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
This meditation guides you through shifting your attention inward to: build connection with self and body; increase awareness of, and ability to listen to, information coming from your body which can help you begin to tune into what state your nervous system is in and to assess effectiveness of interventions
Music: Krishna’s Healing Power by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
Anchoring Bi-Lateral Meditation
This Meditation anchors you into your stable, rooted self using the vagus nerve; balances the mind through bi-laterall focus and bi-lateral touch
Music: Vagus Nerve Stimulation by Narayanjot Records on YouTube
Use this meditation to balance the mind, increase focus and attention, and most importantly to interrupt the signaling from the amygdala so that you can bring your system into CALM. This is my version of one from the NMI page on insight timer and also on this page.
Music: Powerful Meditation Music for Concentration and Focus by Meditation and Healing on YouTube
Connecting with Awe and Wonder
Awe is beneficial for everyone, especially when dealing with anything difficult. Do this often - even for a couple minutes when you are stressed/overwhelmed/hurting. This meditation guides you through remembering, with all of your senses, an experience of being in a place where you FELT AWE
Music: Village Love Story by Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
This meditation anchors you in your strong, immoveable center and allows you to rest in strength as you observe all thought, feeling and sensation that arises
Music: Bamboo Garden by Buddha’s Flute
This meditation aids you in accepting and facing the unknown through connecting with your core immovable self and anchoring into your strength.
Music: Calm Mountains by Fantasia Echoes
Holding BOTH When You Feel Conflicting Things
This meditation can be helpful when you feel pulled in opposite directions or the splitting experience arising from what seems to be conflicting thoughts, feelings, or sensations. By helping you stretch and expand the meditation this supports you so that you don’t have to pick either/or, and rather can hold BOTH things.
Music: Krishna’s Harmonious Flute by Buddha’s Lounge
This meditation guides you through increasing love and compassion for yourself. Observe yourself and how the experiences of life have impacted you. Through the lens of love, connect with both giving and receiving whatever is needed, fostering and growing your compassion and understanding for yourself.
Music: Healing Mother by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
This meditation is the basis and foundation of Open Heart meditations. It increases love and compassion for self and others.
Music: Peaceful Garden by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
This focus meditation uses imagery of the tree of life; drawing energy up from your roots and down from your limbs and leaves, allowing them to mingle, grow and connect you with the vitality of life.
Music: Golden Blossom by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
The Net of Indra as a Symbol of Connection
The Net of Indra as a Symbol of Connection
Weave Yourself INTO Life
This Open Heart meditation increases the felt sense of being woven into the very fabric of life
Music: Village Love Story by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
This meditation uses imagery of being both the single rooted tree AND the entire forest to Open the Heart and increase connection
Music: Morning Flute Music - New Day by Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
This meditation connects you with being like a tree and then slowly to the feeling of being the entire, vast and expansive forest
Music: Relaxing Flute Falling Leaves by Buddha’s Lounge on YouTube
Various Routes to Quiet the Mind
Various Routes to Quiet the Mind
This meditation uses space imagery to quiet the mind for sleep. Using both the darkness between all things in space and its vast neverending expansiveness.
Music: 8 Hour Hans Zimmer Time Cover by Cozy Sleep Sounds on YouTube
When You are READY!
This meditation helps you to gently stretch into acceptance of things that may be difficult
Music: Dive into Tranquility - Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
This meditation supports you in expanding yourself as you hold both your joys and your sorrows.
Music: Buddha’s Flute - Healing Mother by Buddha’s Lounge
This meditation assists you in moving through the waters of Depression which ebb and flow.
Music: Bamboo Garden by Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
Meditation for Self Forgiveness
This meditation gently guides you through sitting with your deep regrets and assists you in allowing and receiving the balm of self forgiveness
Music: Dive into Tranquility by Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
For the Meditations Below Follow These Steps if You Haven't Yet:
For the Meditations Below Follow These Steps if You Haven't Yet:
Download the Insight Timer app
**Preferably to your phone so you can access whenever needed**
Open the NeuroMeditation Institute page within the app and select the Follow Button for ease of finding them in the future
When you click the links for the meditations below be sure to bookmark them for easier and quicker access for future use.
How These Meditations From the NeuroMeditation Institute Helped Me and When I Used/Use Them
How These Meditations From the NeuroMeditation Institute Helped Me and When I Used/Use Them
This is my favorite meditation for interrupting my racing mind, either for sleep or for general activation.
This meditation helps bring you into a calm and peaceful state of observing your thoughts and feelings. It quiets the mind and helps with the many layers of processing after loss from suicide.
If you connect more with the imagery of leaves on a river try this one: Awareness of Thoughts
Use this meditation to mindfully explore all that you are going through.
This meditation is helpful for feeling into, identifying, and listening to what you need.
Movement Meditations for Surviving Loss from Suicide:
How Movement Meditations Can Help When You Are Surviving Loss From Suicide
How Movement Meditations Can Help When You Are Surviving Loss From Suicide
Watch these Videos to Understand Your Brain and the Impacts of This Type of Traumatic Loss
Other Tools For Surviving Loss From Suicide:
Identifying/Naming the Shattered part of you
Identifying/Naming the Shattered part of you
Mine is the Screaming Woman. What is the name you give to the part of you that was most wounded through this experience. This aides in recognition of the impact of this experience on YOU.
Honoring Loss of Part of Self
Honoring Loss of Part of Self
Honoring Anniversaries, Birthdays and other Difficult Holidays
Honoring Anniversaries, Birthdays and other Difficult Holidays
Do We Stay Connected? Well... That's Really Up to YOU and CAN Change Over Time
Do We Stay Connected? Well... That's Really Up to YOU and CAN Change Over Time
Accepting the World As it IS After Loss from Suicide When The World Swallowed your Loved One
Accepting the World As it IS After Loss from Suicide When The World Swallowed your Loved One
The Importance of Nature for Surviving Loss from Suicide:
How Nature Can Help After Loss from Suicide
How Nature Can Help After Loss from Suicide
Various Ways to Access Nature: Especially When You Can't Physically Get There
Various Ways to Access Nature: Especially When You Can't Physically Get There
Why Awe & Wonder are Crucial to Surviving Loss from Suicide
Why Awe & Wonder are Crucial to Surviving Loss from Suicide
Awe is beneficial for everyone, especially when dealing with anything difficult. Do this often - even for a couple minutes when you are stressed/overwhelmed/hurting. This meditation guides you through remembering, with all of your senses, an experience of being in a place where you FELT AWE
Music: Village Love Story by Buddha’s Flute on YouTube
Get out and Lay on the Earth and Feel Suspended
Get out and Lay on the Earth and Feel Suspended
Go to the BEGIN HERE page and the Nature page for more information on and meditations for connecting with Nature
When Your Suicide Loss is Connected with the Hate of the World - These are some resources for helping educate people about gender and a couple of books on gender in archaeology and as viewed through a more dignified lens
The Facts About Gender
Transgender Neurobiology
Brain Gender
Neurobiology Trans-Sexuality
Changing Ones: Third and Fourth Gender in Native North America
Changing Ones: Third and Fourth Gender in Native North America
by Will Roscoe
Ancient Bodies, Ancient Lives: Sex, Gender and Archaeology
Ancient Bodies, Ancient Lives: Sex, Gender and Archaeology
by Rosemary A Joyce
Temperament, Personality and Perception - Why They Are Important NOW
What Temperament Are You?
What Temperament Are You?
Knowing what temperament you are at a base level can help you as you come to KNOW YOURSELF more fully.
We come into the world having a base temperament. This is our Nature. Who we are is comprised of this and our NURTURING or how we were nurtured. Understanding your nature can offer you amazing insight into yourself. Exploring the impacts of how you were nurtured or where you weren't allows you to see the story that is YOU. Our Nature can't be radically changed. However when we come to understand ourselves better we can gain the awareness to make choices which are in alignment with our nature so that our lives can feel more peaceful and fulfilling. It is part of learning to truly love, accept and respect yourself and the WONDER which you ARE! No one is the same as us... we are connected and can have shared experiences, but the internal world that is us is something which is as unique as our fingerprint.
When surviving loss from Suicide, understanding yourself more fully can help as you find your way to be in the world with this loss and how much that impacts our sense of self, of purpose and so finding our way forward. When you feel like you have shattered into a million pieces, re-acquainting yourself with the root essence of who you are can help you feel your ground as you come back together in a new way.
Why Understanding Your Personality is Helpful
Why Understanding Your Personality is Helpful
Take time to answer the questions slowly and honestly for accuracy. They offer a breakdown of interesting and helpful information that can help you gain insight into yourself.
Why Perception Matters When Surviving Loss From Suicide
Why Perception Matters When Surviving Loss From Suicide
Redefining and ReCLAIMING Your Perception
Redefining and ReCLAIMING Your Perception
Go to the What Does It Help page as well as the BEGIN HERE and Other Helpful Resources page to explore for more helpful information for the many issues that you are likely to encounter on this journey.
Reach Out To Me For Support Through This Journey
Reach Out To Me For Support Through This Journey
Go to the About/Contact Page to contact me and for more information for the support services I offer.
It can often be hard to find others who understand what you are experiencing. However connecting with this those who have some ability to understand your pain, especially with regard to suicide, those who have gone through this painful journey can be inexplicably helpful.
I offer a sliding scale for individual work. This is based on your qualification for services such as SNAP, Medicaid and your ability to pay for anything beyond basic needs. Reach out. I am not a service with 24 hour support so be sure you reach out to those that do, whenever you need to.
Dial 988 if you are feeling suicidal and unsure of your ability to regulate this feeling or if you simply need support in regulating it or bringing it into calm.
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