The people we engage with and have relationships with (familial, friendship or romantic) have an enormous impact on us. Having people who are healthy and balanced in our lives helps us to recover from or move out of dysregulated states of the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems (go to the Vagus Nerve & Polyvagal Theory page. When our social interactions are safe and supportive, our alarm system is able to calm and the nervous system finally able to begin recovery. 

If you have toxic people in your life, do your best to eliminate or radically reduce exposure to them. This may mean that you need to find a new place to live, to work, new friends to spend time with or many other ways you may need to adjust your lifestyle to support your recovery. Being committed to yourself means choosing people in your life who have a positive effect on your process, recovery and healing. These people no only help you feel safe but they also can serve as your tethers to the world... what makes you feel most connected. 

Practice the Net of Indra Meditation  on the Free Resources Page for meditations to foster this sense of connection. This is especially helpful when separated from those who you feel most connected to, have lost them, or when feeling isolated and alone.