One of the most important things to remember is to be kind to yourself. This doesn't mean letting yourself off the hook or not being accountable. You can be truthful with yourself in a kind and loving way. Remembering your particular issues of struggle are not an indication of a flaw or some failure. Most often they surface, or come to be, as a result of life experiences; they are a normal reaction to abnormal situations. While big T traumas have a huge and more obvious impact on us, little 't' traumas can have an impact which is often more difficult to pinpoint as the "source" or origin of our response. Talk with your therapist to tease through understanding the events or experiences which have led to what you are experiencing in the present. Approach yourself with open, kind, and non-judgemental curiosity.